5 Signs he’s not serious about you

Let’s be honest, we’ve all been dragged around in a situationship where we’re convinced the boy is just taking his time, afraid of getting hurt, afraid of hurting you, when actually… he’s just not that into you.

Although we all hate to admit it, the signs are always there… right from the beginning. Let’s look at all the signs the boy is just wasting your time.

5 Signs he's not serious about you

1.      He doesn’t ask you out

Okay, let’s start with the most obvious sign. If a guy isn’t asking you out, it’s because he doesn’t want to. There’s no amount of “I’m too busy at the moment” that can justify a man not asking you out while still being interested.

Let me also clarify: inviting you over to his house for Netflix and Chill or coming to you at 10pm on a Tuesday is NOT a date.

Unless he literally asks you out for a real date in the outside world, he’s not serious about you.

Sure, he might like you… but men can like us just a little bit. It sucks. I know. But if he wants to be with you, he will make it clear by asking you out before someone else does.

2.      He’s not consistent

Haven’t we all dealt with that one guy who will take twelve hours to text us back, then suddenly give us a whole world of attention on a six-hour date, only to disappear for the next three days?

Here’s a truth you don’t want to here: if there is no consistency and no predictability in his communication, he’s not serious about you.

No, predictability is not boring. It’s sexy and it’s a sign that the guy wants you. If you’re looking for a relationship, don’t fall for the mystery Chad.

3.      He doesn’t want to put a label on it

If you’ve been seeing the guy for more than four or five dates in the last couple of months maybe you’ve already slept with him, and he’s still “not ready to commit to a serious relationship because he doesn’t know you well enough” … you’re dating a child.

This is just a big excuse to not invest any time and energy into something that might not work out.

But let me tell you: being exclusive and calling it a relationship is the only way to make it work. You need to invest time and energy in a relationship and actually be committed in order to give it a chance.

Calling something a relationship doesn’t mean you’re getting married the next day. You can still break up if you realize you’re not feeling it.

In other words, don’t let a man fool you into believing it’s normal to date someone for three or four months until he decides you’re good enough for him.

4.      He only plans things last minute

If you get a text from the guy at 10pm on a Tuesday that says “u up?” or “wanna hang out?” it’s not because he misses you. He’s just horny.

If he asks you on a Saturday to go out THAT Saturday, it’s because the plans he had with his friends got cancelled.

Sure, he might have forgotten that the weekend was coming, but the fact that he’d assume you’ve got no plans on a Saturday night, keeping your whole weekend free in case he asks you out, shows how much he values your time.

If the guy is serious about you, he will plan the Saturday date on Tuesday or Wednesday to make absolutely sure he gets to see you.

5.      You’re constantly wondering and looking for signs

Obviously, calling your girlfriends to tell them all the details of the three first dates is acceptable and expected.

BUT if you catch yourself asking for their opinion two months into dating, spending hours rereading your text exchanges looking for signs that he likes you, or if you’re simply still unsure about where things are going after five dates, it’s a bad sign.

Having to actively look for a couple of green flags in the middle of a red ocean means he’s not serious about you.

Bottom line

You have every right to know where things are going, especially if you’ve been seeing the guy for more than a couple of weeks. Girl, you deserve clarity.